The Thank You I Never Got

I've been having trouble lately. I got in to an argument with a family member over a situation where I'm not totally sure what happened but feelings were hurt. Even though we resolved the issue, I still feel that I was wronged and would appreciate an apology. I am a person that talks things to DEATH. Especially when I don't understand a situation and feel like I didn't get closure for it. I want to talk to her again but I fear bringing anything up would only cause more drama. But I wanted that closure, I wanted to talk it to death until I felt a resolve and I wanted to move on as if nothing happened. I finally decided to talk to my friends about it and seek advice. I got mixed reviews on if I should talk to her about it or not.

Sometimes in life we will never get that apology we believe we need. Finally, I had to learn that I have to get closure. Closure is a luxury, not anything that is guaranteed to us. Holding on to something to get an apology later is only hurting yourself. Those moments of: "I just need to talk to him/her, and let them know how they hurt me. I feel like if I let them know then I will feel better." Honestly, most of the time that backfires, because sometimes you don't get the response that you were hoping for, and it makes you relive those feelings.

So here is my advice to my sweet children. Find a way to get closure for yourself. Forgive quickly and love deeply.